Practicing Awareness of Microaggressions

I can remember a time when me and some of my friends had went out to karoke. Of course we were there to have a good time some of us were having wine and some of us were just having fun. Of course everyone knows that when you have been drinking you tend to be a little more friendly, and a little loud. I had a friend that had one to many classes of wine and she was a little extra friendly to the people that were in there and was really "attention seeking" by that way she dancing, Now with her dancing and open friendliness me being her friend and theothers were trying to keep her calm  and keep her seated and to allow her to listen to the music. It work for only a hot minute and before I knew it she over heard some guys talking and I notice how the guys approached our table saying " Me and my boys want some of that attention". I instantly snapped and we immediatley left for the night.

After remembering that incident and reading the course work I am able to detect that i was a victim of mircoassault and microinvalidation. Those men thought just because my friend was acting a certain way I was a reflection of her. Now I know the ol' saying is to watch the company you keep because birds of a feather flock together, but this is 2011and I feel even though you may hang in groups and have friends it is not appropiate to judge each person because everyone has their on individual personality. This week I observed a little stereotype at my job. I observed one of my co-workers telling our director that she didn't want me to work with her this upcoming year because of my life style. Once I heard this information I told the director I don't feel comfortable working in this type of environment. She then told me that there was no need to worry about anything and if anyone goes it will be her for trying to cause a hositle work environment. The funny part is that I dont share my lifestyle with anyone so really she was going off of hersay which really made the situation even worst. With me hearing that it made me want to more find other employment because this is not the first time this situation has come up. I know if I stay humble my season will soon come. SO I go in to my job and go home.